Teen: to fit in

Allow me to share my theory of teen years in simple language…

  • 0-12 years: Exploring with pure innocence. Egocentric. Living for the day. Smooth.
  • Early teen years: Choosing peer group, the game of “fitting in” begins, it all seems possible.
  • Mid teen years: Trying to fit in. Acting phase, having two personalities; one in school to satisfy peer pressure, other at home to satisfy parental pressure. Believing life can easily be double faced.
  • Mid to late teen years: Realising it’s not easy to fit in. Playing it safe, a little here a little there. Internal conflict manifested in disinterest, boredom, depression and/or rebellious behaviour. Rough times!
  • Late teen years: Realising “fitting in” will not thrive. Finding faults in peer group. Attempting to build own identity.  Tough times, but quite a ride.  

Later on: Enjoying newly developed identity. Responsible. Standing up for values, life becomes much easier! Well, with annoying minor incidents of each of the above!



(Captured @ the Great Wall of China)



  1. kitten said,

    September 3, 2010 at 10:55 pm

    Interesting. I quiet agree.

  2. Nadia said,

    September 4, 2010 at 10:27 am

    AGREE. Then early twenties to mid-twenties, starting the journey of discovering yourself. You start realizing it’ll be YEARS and YEARS (maybe never) before you figure out who you really are or who you want to be/should be.

  3. Stimulus said,

    September 4, 2010 at 11:04 am

    And all along I thought it was only me who went thru these phases…great way to sum it up!

  4. Divaa Divine said,

    September 16, 2010 at 12:11 pm

    agree agree

  5. Reem said,

    November 11, 2010 at 5:56 am

    i totally agree ..

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