5 years of togetherness

In celebration of my 5th anniversary with my very Dearest Mr.Shahrayar (just a nickname to go with Shahrazad), I thought I’ll share only “some” of my special secret recipe of marriage success, hmmm not really… Just a random note on a special day 🙂 

Before I even start to mention what we had done to make this successful, I must acknowledge and believe that no matter what we’ve striven to do in the past 5 years, it was God’s will that made us go this far, with His help with His guidance we saw light in every dark pit. “Alhamdlilah”, thank you Allah for the marriage I am in. I’ve been married to Shahrayar for 5 years now, I haven’t been granted the gift of motherhood yet, with all the sorrow that this may hold, I see a fruit with it, because it may be exactly that, that has brought me and Shahrayar close to each other. There is no one in our wee family but ourselves, we’re forced to bond :p

Marriage in many ways resembles a plant, any plant.

For a marriage to succeed you first and foremost need good foundation. The seeds you pick should be of good quality. Similarly, for marriage to succeed you need to bring together a couple who are both genuinely good. Like Allah says “the good for the good” (al6ayeboon lil6ayyebat). You bring them two together in good soil foundation; they have the tendency to grow.

Then comes the season…you cannot plant a January flower in June. Guessed it? It’s Compatibility. The couple should be compatible, mentally, emotionally, physically! In simple language = Chemistry 😉 

There’s all that, good foundation and compatibility –> marriage is the result, any marriage, but not necessarily a “successful” marriage. For a successful one you need to provide a good environment for your plant to flourish. For a plant to sustain a living it needs, oxygen, water, light and nutrition (Have I got my biology right here?)

♥ Oxygen – fresh and clean with no boundaries = love.                                                                      

♥ Water – clear and pure = trust and openness.  

♥ Light = focus on each other, let him be your no.1 priority.

♥ Nutrition = love, intimacy, passion, compassion… many of it in varied forms!


♥ Happy Anniversary, Happy Planting ♥



  1. um3azzan said,

    June 10, 2009 at 12:26 pm

    May Allah keep you for each other .. you make a wounderful couple 🙂

  2. Rayyan said,

    June 11, 2009 at 10:27 am

    Happy Anniversary!
    Inshalla el3omr kellah sawa fi 7ob wa wi2am! 🙂

  3. June 11, 2009 at 5:52 pm

    Salam and congrats!

    Interesting reading!
    Foundation, compatibility, love, trust, priority, & intimacy!

    I agree with all those ingredients. I also think that even if any one of them is not to the desired level of the married couple, they could compensate that with strong levels of the other ingredients.

    Salams to Shahrayar!! Hahahaha! Now he got himself a new nickname! 😉

    • Shahrazad said,

      June 12, 2009 at 1:47 pm

      Exactly Hamed. Compensation and compromise can do magic in any marriage!

  4. Your dear Husband said,

    June 11, 2009 at 6:29 pm

    Maybe I should change my name from dear Husband to shahrayar then !!!!

    I have to say that you forgot to add one important ingredient, that is “arm twisting” , that’s my arm ofcourse 😛 …. just kidding

    Happy Anniversary….

    • Shahrazad said,

      June 12, 2009 at 1:51 pm

      Of course..
      If all those ingredients didn’t help me acheive my wants, I must always resort to arm-twisting 😛

      ….. to you too 🙂

  5. mamati said,

    June 12, 2009 at 5:26 pm

    Mabrook Sharazad & Shahrayar Allah yedeem il mahab bainkum ya rab

    Sharazad as you know a year and 2 days before you became a wife it was my turn to entre the next phase of our lives called marriage.

    I loved your post and as i found it truly sums up and highlighted all the aspects of a successful marriage.

    May Allah continue to bless your marriage

    • Shahrazad said,

      June 13, 2009 at 9:51 am

      Thanks mamati for passing by 🙂

      Ameen ya Rab Al3alameen, kulna ajma3een!

  6. 'liya said,

    June 13, 2009 at 6:55 pm

    Happy anniversary!
    This was a really great post, I enjoyed reading it 🙂

    & thank you for your comments on my blog!

  7. Faith said,

    June 13, 2009 at 7:38 pm

    Happy Anniversary!
    May good keep the love and baraka in your life always-always! 🙂

    Loving your blog.

    • Shahrazad said,

      June 13, 2009 at 11:00 pm

      Thanks Faith, 3uqbalik Inshallah
      …will be looking for more of your comments around 😉

  8. Soulmate said,

    June 17, 2009 at 6:01 pm

    Yet another superb piece Shahrazad.. Not only have you succeeded in nurturing your own plant but you’ve always been of great help to other plants growth as well with your sound advice & words of wisdom.. May your plant continue to grow ever so successfuly 🙂

    • Shahrazad said,

      June 18, 2009 at 2:52 pm

      Sweet of you dear soul-y 🙂

      Your plant specifically is one of those plants that give life its sweet taste. Yes, I’ve helped in picking the seeds and the building of a good solid foundation but remember you’ve done all the nurturing yourselves. The good environment for growth you provided is to take credit for the wonderful flourishing of your plant.

      Love your comments around, keep’em coming!

  9. nadia said,

    July 13, 2009 at 2:04 pm

    That was very sweet, mashaAllah! May Allah bless you both with many more years of happiness, health and love.

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